You're Not Losing Time. You're Giving It Away. | Neal Schore – EP 806

Why do you never have enough time? Most of us assume that feeling overwhelmed is a problem with our calendars. But executive coach and leadership advisor Neal Schore offers a different perspective: much of the time we lose isn't consumed by the tasks themselves. It disappears into our reactions, assumptions, rumination, and the emotional “swirl” that follows difficult moments. In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with Neal Schore, cofounder and CEO of The 25th Hour Group and author of The 25th Hour, to explore why managing yourself may be more important than managing your schedule. Neal shares the defining experience that changed his relationship with time, explains how emotional reactivity can quietly consume hours of attention, and reveals how pausing, clarifying intent, and asking better questions can transform the way we work, lead, and relate to others. You'll learn: Why we often give away more time to our emotional reactions than to the problems that triggered them. How Neal's defining Lake Michigan experience revealed the personal cost of failing to manage himself. What Neal means by the “25th hour” and where the hidden hours in our days actually go. Why trying to control other people can drain enormous amounts of attention and energy. How emotional “swirl” turns brief interactions into hours of rumination and distraction. Why asking “What's the intent?” can interrupt assumptions and prevent unnecessary conflict. How pausing before responding can create better decisions, stronger relationships, and greater emotional maturity. Why clarifying questions can build massive amounts of trust. How leaders can model emotional maturity and create healthier, more productive cultures. Why creating white space and acknowledging your own progress are essential parts of intentional living. Whether you're struggling to keep up with your responsibilities, navigating difficult relationships, leading a team, or simply wondering where your days keep going, this conversation offers a practical way to rethink time. Neal's message is ultimately about more than productivity: it's about becoming more intentional with the attention, energy, and life you already have.