Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782

Do you find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns over and over again? Maybe you pull away when people get too close. Maybe you constantly worry about being abandoned. Or perhaps you feel more comfortable succeeding at work than allowing yourself to be truly known by the people you love. The problem isn't that you're broken. It may be that your nervous system is still responding to the world exactly as it learned to in childhood. In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with attachment expert, former licensed marriage and family therapist, and relationship coach Adam Lane Smith to explore how our earliest relationships shape the way we connect throughout our lives. Together, they unpack the science behind attachment styles, why so many high achievers struggle with intimacy despite succeeding professionally, and how secure relationships become the foundation for resilience, leadership, and long-term flourishing. In this episode, you'll learn: How your attachment style shapes your relationships, communication, and emotional reactions Why anxious and avoidant patterns often begin in childhood The surprising connection between attachment, burnout, anxiety, and workaholism Why success at work doesn't always translate into healthy relationships Practical ways to regulate your nervous system and create lasting change Adam's simple framework for building secure, healthy relationships How to stop repeating old patterns and create deeper trust and connection Whether you're trying to strengthen your marriage, become a better parent, improve your leadership, or simply understand yourself more deeply, this conversation will help you recognize the patterns that have been shaping your life—and show you how to change them. Because healing doesn't begin when you find the right relationship. It begins when you become a safer place for connection.